From Healing the Child Within (audiobook) Chapter 7, from 8 minutes in Codependence - the neurosis of our time Co-dependence is a disease of lost self-hood in a viscous cycle, it's a condition that stifles our true self - our child within. We can begin to define co-dependance as any suffering and/or dysfunction that is associated with, or results from, focusing on the needs and behaviour of others. Co-dependents become so focused upon or preoccupied with important people in t